Projection: Prologue (Vent)

Let me make this per­fect­ly clear.

I am not like you. I do not think the same way that you do. Never. Ever. EVER. Ever believe that you under­stand, or assume that you know, how I’m feel­ing or what I’m think­ing just because you are, or have ever been, in the same sit­u­a­tion.

To believe that you under­stand, is arro­gant. To assume that you know, is an insult.

You’re usu­al­ly wrong any­way.


  1. Ok, so I agree that no one can real­ly under­stand exact­ly what you may be feel­ing, expe­ri­enc­ing, or going through at any one time, but that does not mean they can­not relate and con­tribute to inter­pret­ing, resolv­ing, or deal­ing with that state. We are social beings and func­tion best when we rec­i­p­ro­cate our thoughts and feel­ings with each oth­er. In a way, to believe that no one can even remote­ly under­stand you is arro­gant, and to dis­count peo­ples attempts to is insult­ing.

  2. Perhaps, but you can­not always assume no one can relate.

  3. I agree it’s arro­gant that no one else could pos­si­bly feel as you do. And, I’d just like to throw in for good mea­sure, at least those peo­ple care enough to try.

  4. What I said was that some­one should­n’t assume that they know or under­stand me sim­ply based on a shared cir­cum­stance. That’s why I used the frag­ment, “just because you are, or have ever been, in the same sit­u­a­tion”. This is about pro­jec­tion bias and assump­tion, not under­stand­ing.

    I don’t see how some­one could inter­pret this as say­ing that no one will ever know or under­stand. I find that peo­ple are gen­er­al­ly wrong about me most of the time, although not all of the time. That’s why I wrote, “You’re usu­al­ly wrong”, instead of “You’re always wrong”. I’m sure that there are many peo­ple who can defi­nate­ly under­stand or relate to the things I’m going through after I give them the prop­er expla­na­tion, but many peo­ple don’t both­er to find out my ver­sion of a sit­u­a­tion, and assume it’s the same as theirs. Many com­plete­ly mis­judge me based on their pre-con­ceived notion of a set of lim­it­ed cir­cum­stances.

    These com­ments are a per­fect exam­ple.

    Nowhere did I state that no one can relate. Nowhere did I state that no one can under­stand me. Nowhere did I state that no one else can feel like I do. I sim­ply said that some­one should­n’t feel as though they can relate to what I’m going through based on their own expe­ri­ences with the sit­u­a­tion. The sit­u­a­tion may be the same, but the expe­ri­ence is usu­al­ly quite dif­fer­ent, and it’s the expe­ri­ence that deter­mines the final thoughts and ideas. I com­plete­ly agree that we’re social beings and func­tion best when we rec­i­p­ro­cate our thoughts and feel­ings with each oth­er, but there’s no com­mu­ni­ca­tion after assump­tion. Then assump­tion becomes a lack of rec­i­p­ro­ca­tion.

    And for good mea­sure, a per­son who sim­ply assumes that oth­ers are like them does not try to under­stand, and cer­tain­ly does not care to try to under­stand. In fact, the oppo­site is true, because they’ve already made their judge­ment with­out any attempt at under­stand­ing from the prop­er angle.

  5. ow thats a bit of a bit­ter entry…:(

  6. Wow… you seemed to have upset a few peo­ple.

    BTW, “Karry Ling” did­n’t take too long. (”,)

    Take care

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