Everything one does in life is a choice.
Assuming that other people want to make certain choices is presumptuous. Believing that someone should make certain choices is judgmental.
Giving advice based on that is insulting. Doing so without being asked is rude.
Ooooh. I hope I’m not guilty.
Sometimes I’m not sure if you write about your problems in hopes of getting some advice. I try not to give it without making you feel like you have to do anything. It’s your life, you’re free to do as you wish, I’m sure most of us here just want you to have the happiest one possible :)
I write to get things off my chest. That’s often helpful enough. It’s not that advice is bad. If it was raining, it probably wouldn’t be considered inappropriate if someone recommended carrying an umbrella, even if the two people didn’t have a close relationship. But sometimes people go too far with their advice, crossing over personal boundaries (how insulting would it be if someone you hardly knew recommended that you didn’t marry your girlfriend because they didn’t like her, for example). Even if it’s just a recommendation, I think that’d be pretty insulting. It’s even more inappropriate when they don’t have knowledge of the entire situation.
But I’ve never felt like you’ve crossed over any boundaries that were inappropriate. :)