There Is No Such Thing As Love

Let me give it to you straight, straight like an arrow.

I’ve had these words stuck in my head for some time now. Lyrics from the tit­u­lar Dears track I first heard in uni­ver­si­ty, back when I would go home in the sum­mer and watch The Wedge on Friday nights.

I know that’s awful­ly cyn­i­cal to say, but I need proof that it is pos­si­ble today.

I just wish I could accept that fact. I’m start­ing to won­der if that’s why I keep hear­ing the words in my head. It’s my sub­con­scious remind­ing me, keep­ing me ground­ed.

Maybe that’s why we watch these movies. Hollywood would have us believe that love exists.

It’s the same sto­ry, where guy sees girl, falls in love, and hap­pi­ly ever after. In between, there’s always the overused plot ele­ment of the guy win­ning over the girl by reveal­ing him­self and his feel­ings. After all, this alone is enough to win any girl over, regard­less of whether she found him attrac­tive or not, she was mar­ried or sin­gle, or he was the nerd and she was the cheer­leader.

But love does­n’t exist in real life, as much as I want to believe that it does.

Not for me, any­way.

138 comments

  1. Somebody put it like this, you should be cel­e­brat­ed by oth­ers, not tol­er­at­ed learn the dif­fer­ence very quick­ly, and save your self some much need­ed time.

  2. Love is an illu­sion & con­di­tion­al, but hatred is real.

  3. Only true exam­ple of love is when mom breast­feed her tod­dler.

    • It is the pure uncon­di­tion­al love.

      • Nah… she has tons of chem­i­cals that dri­ve her to do it. It’s not in any way unselfish. She does it to make her­self hap­py because of the genes that dri­ve her to act. She’s no bet­ter or more pure than a croc­o­dile rip­ping a man apart. They’re just doing what they’re pro­grammed to do. Love is bull­shit that sells well…

  4. You know why we believe love exist, because if it kills me, I’m going to make some­body give it to me. And then I may or may not give it back, depends on how I feel.

  5. There is but not like they show in movies and books and romance. Thats infat­u­a­tion!
    I was brought up in a house­hold where my par­ents could­n’t love me for who i am so i start­ed believ­ing that there is no love. I believed there was no love and hat­ed every­one who pre­tend­ed to love until i land­ed on my soul­mate. Its very much real in the heart. But he taught me to love myself first like all soul­mates. Love is with­in us, not out­side.

    • Yes but have the the time there’s usu­al­ly no one out there (except for you) whos will­ing to come to anoth­er per­son (attrac­tive or not) and say that they real­ly like you. Half the time it’s only a pity response.

    • Are y’all still togeth­er?

  6. There is no such thing as love, it’s a mys­ti­cal uni­corn. I’ve prayed, plead­ed and I’ve giv­en every­thing to near­ly every rela­tion­ship I’ve been in. I want­ed so bad­ly to be loved and to love and nope. I can with­out a doubt tell you it is a fan­ta­sy. People date peo­ple, fig­ure out about each oth­er, decide if there are ben­e­fits to keep­ing them around and then ride the gravy train until the ben­e­fits run out! It is what it is.

    • Speaking to the preach­er. I was in a rela­tion­ship, and she broke up with me. Ever since I’ve been wish­ing for some­thing rel­a­tive­ly good to hap­pen to me but the roller coast­er still con­tin­ued straight down to hell for me.

  7. I have been cheat­ed on by every man I had ever dat­ed. Love is a high or short term feel­ing with a bru­tal crash. Its not real­ly love, just chem­i­cals a per­son can stim­u­late for a while until theyve grown bored with you and go chase after oth­er women. As the chal­lenge of you has been con­quered, they want some­one new. Women throw them­selves at men for no effort whatsover. Women have got­ten eas­i­er and more avail­able, so men are nat­u­ral­ly cash­ing in. STDs and divorce are at all time highs. Ive wast­ed so much of my life devot­ed to rships and being upset over cheat­ing. I cant help but know from expe­ri­ence there is no such thing as love. People will keep you around only as long as you serve, sat­is­fy, or give them some­thing they want

    • I think you nailed it M you and let me laugh it’s chem­i­cals and your use­ful­ness it’s over.

    • I for one guy would say that I have nev­er been in love. It always seems that the gal I would like to be in a com­mit­ted rela­tion­ship is nev­er inter­est­ed in me. Geeze, I’m not rich, I am not famous and I haven’t made any real impact on peo­ples lives. I could also talk about the depres­sion brought on in part by the fact that I was cir­cum­cised short­ly after being born. I am just now in my 60’s learn­ing about the dam­age to my phys­i­cal and men­tal health caused by this process. Parents need to be edu­cat­ed on the issue and stop muti­lat­ing their male chil­dren. It caus­es PTSD, depres­sion and phys­i­cal­ly dam­ages the penis. How can any woman love some­one with all this bag­gage? They won’t now or ever.

    • Well if u keep look­ing the wrong place u will nev­er find me I m here for u just me I just need some­one who will lis­ten and not walk away

  8. What hap­pens if in the rela­tion­ship, one per­son is mad­ly in love with the oth­er, but the sec­ond per­son does­n’t believe that love is a thing? Do they con­tin­ue, or would it just work out that the fist per­son is going to crash and burn in a pit of sor­row and depres­sion over the sec­ond per­son, who even after all the time spent togeth­er did­n’t even love them in the first place. What would be the most like­ly out­comes of their rela­tion­ship last­ing?

    • It could last a long time it just depends on your use­ful­ness to each oth­er, real­ly what do love have to do with it. If each of your desires change you both will look in oth­er direc­tions to ful­fill those desires, unless one of you, get low self-esteem and become the oth­ers slave.

  9. Just chem­i­cals a per­son can stim­u­late for a while…That’s the core of what they call love!!! Your sen­tence was great Ms “M”. Like…

    Just a depen­den­cy made of spend­ing time together…something which can be expe­ri­enced with sev­er­al per­sons.

  10. Love exists, but it is not yours to con­trol, or any­body’s in fact, no mat­ter what we do or say . All you can do is let it flow through you from its source [and that is not your heart] and feel it with the part of you that is meant to feel it [yes now its your heart]. and that is it.Now what most peo­ple mean when they say,; I want to find true love. is I want some­one I desire to love me, and they set about find­ing this prob­a­bly impos­si­ble person,and to make sure they do not get reject­ed or let down we attach all these qual­i­fi­ca­tions this per­fect per­son must have before we accept them.Well that sure don’t make it likely.Love is actu­al­ly quite easy to do ‚that is if we remove the con­di­tions. You cant make peo­ple real­ly love you ‚all you can do is love them and the strange thing is ‚what you give comes back ‚maybe not how you thought it would but it does come back.If you can live like this you will not feel so alone or so incom­plete. Have faith and let it flow,switch off the accus­ing voic­es in your head and just be your­self ‚as Kipling said meet with tri­umph or dis­as­ter and treat those two imposters just the same. Good luck and best wish­es to all you searchers out there.

    • Firstly let me say, I am very encour­aged by your words and agree or under­stand most of it. But from per­son­al expe­ri­ence, I can say it does­n’t always come back as you say. No mat­ter how much you declare your love for the oth­er per­son, if they have decid­ed that they no longer love you then you must leave. It is like a one-way switch.
      Once they declare they don’t love you any­more that’s it, they not going to sud­den­ly say I love again no mat­ter what you say or do. I want to believe that love exists and I feel it in my core, but as you get old­er you tend to lose faith in love, and ques­tion whether it is worth at all. It is a quite risky busi­ness after all. A per­son can live a hap­py life with­out anoth­er per­son, but I do still recount those moments when I was ‘walk­ing on air’ in love.

  11. Well here is the very real truth what i am going to say which many of you will either believe me or not. Well first of all unfor­tu­nate­ly we live in a very com­plete­ly dif­fer­ent time today since this obvi­ous­ly isn’t the good old days any­more. Women back then were cer­tain­ly very easy to meet with no trou­ble at all since most men nev­er had trou­ble meet­ing women at that time. Both men and women in those days nev­er had any mon­ey since they were strug­gling just to make ends meat to get by. Today i will very much admit that women have choic­es since they have their inde­pen­dence now which has real­ly changed them for the worst of all. And with so many women that now have their careers today mak­ing a six fig­ure income which tells the whole true sto­ry right there how they have real­ly changed. Most women now are very high main­te­nance, inde­pen­dent, like i just men­tioned, very self­ish, spoiled, greedy, picky, nar­cis­sists, and so very mon­ey hun­gry as well. It is most of these type of women today that will only want the very best of all and will nev­er set­tle for less either. So it is very obvi­ous that these women will nev­er go with a man that makes much less mon­ey than they make since they will usu­al­ly go for men that have mon­ey which makes these women very sad and pathet­ic alto­geth­er now any­way. Just too many Golddiggers nowa­days that these women are to begin with, and they’re noth­ing but users and losers when it comes to mon­ey since they will usu­al­ly take advan­tage of men that have mon­ey. So it is very obvi­ous why many of us good inno­cent men real­ly can’t find real true love today with these very stu­pid women around that have real­ly ruined it for many of us men in the first place, and many of us men here real­ly Aren’t to blame here at all either since it does real­ly take two to tan­go today.

    • The good old days weren’t good. You’re just a whin­er.

    • Maybe you should just go for men, since you clear­ly hate women

      • Said the low life piece of garbage.

      • J, YOU real­ly are a low life los­er alto­geth­er.

  12. There nev­er was. Nothing new.

  13. Love” as such does not exist on this plane. If it did, heal­ing and decent med­i­cine would supercede the desire of all these high and mighty cor­po­ra­tions for mon­ey and wealth. We would be focused on the cure for dis­eases, pover­ty and world hunger. There is too much mate­ri­al­ism in this world right now. “Love” — that which is uncon­di­tion­al, spir­i­tu­al, which imparts inner feel­ings of free­dom and peace is dif­fi­cult to obtain but all too easy to lose.

  14. Love does not exist it’s make believe we are all told so we can spend mon­ey and cel­e­brate things such as anniver­saries or mar­riage n even divorce it’s just a way to make jobs for people…there is nobody in this world that will have your back besides your­self call me sav­age or cru­el but it’s the truth! In the begin­ning u may be attract­ed to some­one and enjoy their com­pa­ny but it’s only because it’s some­thing new then that wears off ita like what every­body says chem­i­cals your body makes up…I don’t believe we were made to be with one per­son for all our life cuz from my expe­ri­ence it just gets worst over time till u even­tu­al­ly begin to hate each oth­er or can’t stand being around them. Sure I have chil­dren n pray that I’m wrong and when they grow up they will both find men that will treat them like princess­es like they deserve but my night­mare n the truth of the world is chances of that hap­pen­ing is slim to none… I just hope I can raise them to under­stand they don’t need any­body to make them hap­py and to be inde­pen­dent! Never rely on any­body cuz they will always hold that over your head!

  15. Love is some­thing cre­at­ed to sell things and trade wealth. It is the only weapon women use and the begin­ning of manip­u­la­tion, a wom­an’s toolk­it to obtain mate­r­i­al wealth.

    Women will nev­er risk any­thing in their pathet­ic lives. They have the advan­tage of lying, cheat­ing, steal­ing, and smear cam­paigns with the law back­ing them up every step of the way.

    They ped­dle words like abuse when things don’t go her way. She will lie about you, ruin your rep­u­ta­tion, and steal your hard earned life and chil­dren the first chance she gets.

    Mila Kunis for exam­ple: she NOW admits she was an ass­hole to Macaulay Kulkin, but she is now mar­ried to Ashton Kutcher and she got what she want­ed — so no risk there. And no one cares to look at her lack of integri­ty.

    Chris Hardwick lost every­thing — because an ex girl­friend was mad because she was­n’t as suc­cess­ful as him. So she wrote a bull­shit essay and post­ed it on the inter­net and achieved her aim — to destroy his life, by claim­ing abuse. He showed texts of her beg­ging to come back and proved he did noth­ing wrong. And he still lost every­thing he built.

    There are mil­lions of exam­ples of women using abus­ing and lying with no account­abil­i­ty. A woman can rape a child and walk free. America is done. There is no integri­ty left. Look at your world leader, your rep­re­sen­ta­tive to the world — a fat, lying, cheat­ing, piece of shit named Trump. He is a proven rapist, a racist, and an imcom­petant fool.

    He is per­fect for America.

    You have only one life. If you val­ue it, have integri­ty. And leave America for the hor­ri­ble peo­ple and go some­where where integri­ty remains.

    If you are male, nev­er for­get that in America it is always your fault. No mat­ter how much evi­dence you have to clear your name, it won’t mat­ter.

    Thank women for that. And the moron­ic lit­tle boys who back them up believe in fairy tales. There is no love, in America there are only sym­bi­ot­ic rela­tion­ships.

    • Mr. Women hater,
      you real­ly have issues. I would strong­ly advise you to do ther­a­py!

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