Life is a lot like business. There’s investment in everything, and relationships are no exception. One has to spend money to make money, the way one has to give trust to get trust. There’s no guarantee involved that says one willl get their investment back. On top of this, one can choose how much or how little to invest. Just like everything else in life, the more one risks, the more one can lose, or the more one can gain.
And the world can be divided in two according to this classification: those who play conservatively, and those who play it all. Those who stay distant, and those who throw themselves into love.
If we’ve been hurt in the past, if we’ve lost all that we chose to give, it’s natural for us to hold back in the future. But at some point we have to break out, and we can’t be scared to give as much as before. The key to living this way is understanding that our past investments, relationships, have no bearing on the ones we have now. It’s like the coin flip problem taught in second-year statistics, or, more appropriately, the Gambler’s Fallacy: even after 10 successive occurrances of a single outcome, the chance for the same outcome remains at fifty percent. We have to treat every trial, every case, every relationship differently.
Life, in relation to people, is a series of investments. We end up gaining from some, but not all. That’s what life is about. That’s what love is about. Nothing is worth it if you don’t put yourself out there. It’s important to figure out which ones are worthwhile, but not as important as figuring out that the worthwhile ones need to be given a chance. We need to put at least a little bit of our trust into them, or nothing will happen.
For what use is recognizing a good investment, if we don’t treat it as such?