equivocality — Jeff Ngan's collection of thoughts, experiences, and projects, inspired by pretty much everything
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New fancy ukulele strings are in! Now to fig­ure out how to restring the uke.

4 years, 5 months ago
28 Feb 10

Slow Down Honey

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“Try to hold you in bed you shrug away instead oh I don’t know why.” I found this song dur­ing a recent tran­si­tion, and it’s stayed with me since. It fits so many moods — con­tent­ment, sad­ness, lon­li­ness, morn­ing, mourn­ing, and moulting.

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In a way, I’m forc­ing myself grow and improve, and this scares me. In the book my ther­a­pist rec­om­mended, it explains “Change requires will­ing­ness to expe­ri­ence pain”, and I’m going through this exactly. I’m con­stantly step­ping out of my com­fort zone, and at this point, it’s much more trep­i­da­tion than excite­ment. It’d be so much eas­ier to fall into old men­tal habits, as unhealthy as they are.

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On morn­ings like this, I sit in my liv­ing room with the cur­tains open. It makes me self-conscious to be sit­ting there with houses across the street get­ting a clear view of me in my PJs and mussed up hair. But it reminds me that some­one else is out there. That the world is full of life, and vibrancy, and peo­ple just like me.

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4 years, 5 months ago
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It’s offi­cial; my pierc­ing is infected.

4 years, 5 months ago
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Sometimes, I won­der if I’m being remem­bered or forgotten.

4 years, 5 months ago
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If there are squeez­able stress reliev­ers in the shape of breasts, why not penises? Or do guys already have penises they squeeze to that end?

4 years, 5 months ago
25 Feb 10

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YES…My 12 gigs of RAM came in today. Take THAT, 4 gig swap file. Now my Mac Pro is finally com­plete. #geekingout

4 years, 5 months ago
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It’s safe to say that 99% of Tim Horton’s patrons are old when it’s 10:30 in the mid­dle of the day. I guess that makes me the 1%.

4 years, 5 months ago
24 Feb 10

On Touch-Typing vs. Second Base

  • Me, hear­ing John typ­ing over the phone: You’re quite the touch-typist now. I remem­ber when you were a two-finger typist.
  • John: I still am. And I have to look at the key­board. I guess I could type with­out look­ing but I never try.
  • Me: Think of it as a vagina. Do you have to look at a vagina when you’re fin­ger­ing it?
  • John: The vagina only has one button.
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Playing the ukulele is just another rea­son to keep the fin­ger­nails short.

4 years, 5 months ago
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Got to use a metal broadsword for the first time in class tonight. #awe­some

4 years, 6 months ago
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Mix-tapes are the sketches of rappers.

4 years, 6 months ago
23 Feb 10

Cranium Party 02

Cranium Party invitation

The sec­ond Cranium Party went exceed­ingly well, even though not a sin­gle one of my core friends was there. In fact, aside from Jess, it was an entirely dif­fer­ent group from last time, and none of the four groups of peo­ple knew each other, but that didn’t stop it from being an awe­some party and every­one got along famously. Through the night, I heard peo­ple ask­ing each other, “And how do you know Jeff?”

People brought all sorts of snacks, but more impor­tantly, they also helped me eat them. Of note was Audra bring­ing a tub of green tea and honey vanilla Häagen-Dazs ice cream, which I had never even heard of before.

To make it inter­est­ing, I told every­one that the los­ing team would have to per­form a tal­ent. Some came pre­pared, oth­ers came with the atti­tude that they wouldn’t lose.

Audra’s tal­ent is speech writ­ing, but since she couldn’t per­form that, she did a ren­di­tion of a song she wrote with Jesse three years ago about their cat Zoey. And the song wasn’t just a short jin­gle, it was a full piece with proper song struc­ture and clever rhymes. If only I wasn’t laugh­ing so hard that I kept shak­ing the camera.

Sergei didn’t have a tal­ent pre­pared, but since I knew that he used to study mar­tial arts, I asked him if he could demon­strate what he knew. He sug­gested that he could blow out a can­dle with a punch, and no one was left unmoved.

Shawn brought his beau­ti­fully carved didgeri­doo to play as his tal­ent. Even though he didn’t lose, peo­ple were still intrigued enough that they wanted to try it. And, of course, Jesse added his own flavour at the end.

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22 Feb 10

On The Mend

My ther­a­pist has the curi­ous habit of push­ing his lower lip into his upper gums when think­ing. He also has a very par­tic­u­lar way of talk­ing, and some­times I won­der if I could imi­tate him.

I went into my ses­sion feel­ing great, and left with a lit­tle more mod­esty than when I started. I may pride myself on my self-awareness, but he’s always there to remind me that some prob­lems are rooted in my sub­con­scious. While my feel­ing of empti­ness has dis­ap­peared, there are still a few under­ly­ing issues, such as why I started to feel that empti­ness in the first place. He said that when we meet again that it should be on a reg­u­lar basis, and I shouldn’t wait for a cri­sis to begin fix­ing issues. I agreed, but wanted to give things a chance on my own first, armed with this new-found enlightenment.

He approaches my sit­u­a­tion from such a per­pen­dic­u­lar per­spec­tive. It’s always a view I’ve never con­sid­ered before. When I first went to see him, it was for my anx­i­ety attacks. Not for the other deep-rooted emo­tional prob­lems I had (and was unaware of). Sometimes, I won­der if we’ll ever get to the point where he’ll say to me, “You know what, Jeff, I don’t think you need to come here anymore.”

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