Comments on: A Bitter Belief

By: Xibee

Xibee — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 18:28:11 +0000

You’re so very right. They don’t. It sucks.

By: Jeff

Jeff — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 15:59:41 +0000

What pisses me off is that I believe I don’t think any of those points relate or apply to me, and yet I’m the one who has to deal with the consequences of them.

By: Jeff

Jeff — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 15:57:41 +0000

You bring up a good point. It’s very hard for me to be with someone who wants to change me. Maybe I’m just too old now, or too stubborn, but I don’t want to change to fit the needs of someone else (unless it’s an improvement that’s in line with my own personal principles). I like me.

By: Jeff

Jeff — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 14:47:54 +0000

I think you have every reason to be bitter about this. You’re being judged quite unfairly when these women don’t truly know you.

By: Xibee

Xibee — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 00:26:42 +0000

I don’t think that women start out wanting to change men. (Girls may, but not women). However, there are two pitfalls that inevitably happen simultaneously:

1) Men often hide all their bad boy behaviour until we’re awash with hypnosis and can’t believe they’d do something awful; and
2) Women are prone to being glassy eyed romantics anyway and often misread obvious signs due to
a) fairytale and hollywood rubbish and altruism
b) girlfriends’ and peers’ misinformation and
c) Misinformation from Mom lurking beneath everything
that makes her feel crappy about herself.

I think c) is the big one that fells most women.

By: Edrei

Edrei — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 00:46:55 +0000

Bitterness. Not so much as the desire to prove them wrong. If Hollywood is any indication of mainstream idealism of love, then by all means, I’ve always sought to show that those ideas can be chucked out the window.

There are women in the world who don’t want to change the men they are with. Just as there are men in the world who want to change the women they are with. You just need to know what kind of person you’re more comfortable with. Girls who want bad boys or women who are sick and tired of it.

For this reason I stopped going out with women whom I know are uncomfortable with the morbid sense of humour and curiosity that I hold on to. Stuck with those that do like a change in perception. The benefit to that, we both stay the same and we both change at the same time without noticing it. That kind of mutual symbiosis in a relationship, whether you’re good or bad, is what we should all look for.

By: Jayme

Jayme — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 23:28:16 +0000

Women. Want. To. Change. Men.

Unfortunately, very few succeed. I can’t blame them for the effort. After all, it’s for the better. GIRLS want bad boys. I don’t believe WOMEN do.

I’m a stoned-faced, hard nosed Marine Corps drill instructor… who loves children and sappy movies and cuddly things. Women want to change me, without knowing me.

I’m bitter for this without real reason.