Comments on: Worry-Free Friend http://equivocality.com/2008/10/30/worry-free-friend/ To be equivocal is to truly live. Wed, 23 May 2012 19:18:22 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Jeff http://equivocality.com/2008/10/30/worry-free-friend/#comment-28258 Jeff Tue, 04 Nov 2008 00:38:11 +0000 http://equivocality.com/?p=1623#comment-28258 <strong>@Zaira</strong> — I guess the strange part is that even <em>I</em> feel like I don't know how to take care of myself. Not all the time, at least. I'm dependent on my friends for many things. I suppose my desire to improve and learn means that I won't make the same mistake twice though. It's quite a compliment for someone to say that they weren't worried about you on 9/11, something reserved for true survivors. I know I wouldn't have made it at ground zero. <strong>@Xibee</strong> — Ah yes, never underestimate the value of feeling necessary, even if it's us who try to create the necessity. @Zaira — I guess the strange part is that even I feel like I don’t know how to take care of myself. Not all the time, at least. I’m dependent on my friends for many things.

I suppose my desire to improve and learn means that I won’t make the same mistake twice though.

It’s quite a compliment for someone to say that they weren’t worried about you on 9/11, something reserved for true survivors. I know I wouldn’t have made it at ground zero.

@Xibee — Ah yes, never underestimate the value of feeling necessary, even if it’s us who try to create the necessity.

]]> By: Xibee http://equivocality.com/2008/10/30/worry-free-friend/#comment-28255 Xibee Mon, 03 Nov 2008 22:32:06 +0000 http://equivocality.com/?p=1623#comment-28255 I'm thinking it stems from an uncontrollable urge to feel necessary in some kind of social context. Besides being right, good, moral, wot wot, etc. I’m thinking it stems from an uncontrollable urge to feel necessary in some kind of social context. Besides being right, good, moral, wot wot, etc.

]]> By: Zaira http://equivocality.com/2008/10/30/worry-free-friend/#comment-28230 Zaira Sun, 02 Nov 2008 12:49:12 +0000 http://equivocality.com/?p=1623#comment-28230 This is a good thing - your friend Pat understands that you know how to take care of yourself and you're not falling into a hole. I have some friends I worry about because they repeat patterns and don't even acknowledge there's a pattern going on. Others lie to themselves and to me about situations, and it's troubling. But some friends, even when they're in the fire, are so aware of their danger that they will get themselves out. So I don't worry about them. But I'm there for them should they ever need me. I was at WTC on 9/11. I had a close friend tell me she wasn't worried for me, because she knew I'd escape. That's a damn vote of confidence, even if it was more for her own sanity. C'est une bonne chose. This is a good thing — your friend Pat understands that you know how to take care of yourself and you’re not falling into a hole.

I have some friends I worry about because they repeat patterns and don’t even acknowledge there’s a pattern going on. Others lie to themselves and to me about situations, and it’s troubling.

But some friends, even when they’re in the fire, are so aware of their danger that they will get themselves out. So I don’t worry about them. But I’m there for them should they ever need me.

I was at WTC on 9/11. I had a close friend tell me she wasn’t worried for me, because she knew I’d escape. That’s a damn vote of confidence, even if it was more for her own sanity.

C’est une bonne chose.

]]> By: Jeff http://equivocality.com/2008/10/30/worry-free-friend/#comment-28221 Jeff Sun, 02 Nov 2008 06:12:18 +0000 http://equivocality.com/?p=1623#comment-28221 I used to agree that there was some feeling of obligation, but I think of it in terms of love now. If you love someone, they have no obligation to love you back. Unfortunately, I learned that the hard way. Your comment made me reconsider Pat's attitude, and I realize that he's a somewhat carefree person. Maybe this has something to do with it as well. I used to agree that there was some feeling of obligation, but I think of it in terms of love now. If you love someone, they have no obligation to love you back. Unfortunately, I learned that the hard way.

Your comment made me reconsider Pat’s attitude, and I realize that he’s a somewhat carefree person. Maybe this has something to do with it as well.

]]> By: joe http://equivocality.com/2008/10/30/worry-free-friend/#comment-28211 joe Sat, 01 Nov 2008 15:43:41 +0000 http://equivocality.com/?p=1623#comment-28211 Me, I hate it when people worry about me. That somehow gives me the unwritten obligation to worry about them back. I guess whether someone often worries about you has to do with whether he or she is a carefree person in the first place. Me, I hate it when people worry about me. That somehow gives me the unwritten obligation to worry about them back.

I guess whether someone often worries about you has to do with whether he or she is a carefree person in the first place.

]]> By: Jeff http://equivocality.com/2008/10/30/worry-free-friend/#comment-28201 Jeff Sat, 01 Nov 2008 00:43:38 +0000 http://equivocality.com/?p=1623#comment-28201 Interesting. I suppose the enjoyment of being worried about someone comes from showing you care about them, as a form of expression. Interesting. I suppose the enjoyment of being worried about someone comes from showing you care about them, as a form of expression.

]]> By: Xibee http://equivocality.com/2008/10/30/worry-free-friend/#comment-28199 Xibee Fri, 31 Oct 2008 23:42:32 +0000 http://equivocality.com/?p=1623#comment-28199 Some of us enjoy worrying about you, which of course is strictly feeding into our nuture-deficit, so you don't have to feel guilty or anything; nor does it imply that we presume you are a netless Jackass IV candidate. It just feels right in an unstoppable way. Some of us enjoy worrying about you, which of course is strictly feeding into our nuture-deficit, so you don’t have to feel guilty or anything; nor does it imply that we presume you are a netless Jackass IV candidate. It just feels right in an unstoppable way.

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