Comments on: Life With Loo http://equivocality.com/2008/09/11/life-with-loo/ To be equivocal is to truly live. Wed, 23 May 2012 19:18:22 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Jeff http://equivocality.com/2008/09/11/life-with-loo/#comment-27427 Jeff Wed, 17 Sep 2008 14:03:39 +0000 http://equivocality.com/?p=1570#comment-27427 <strong>@Xibee</strong> — I think you're right in saying that acting from the heart doesn't necessarily mean manipulation, and that's made me realize that it takes a certain amount of mental problems for someone to treat me the way Louise did. <strong>@Zaira</strong> — There's nothing wrong with acting from the heart, as long as you don't hurt the person. Unfortunately, when acting on emotion without thinking or consideration for the other person involved, it's often the case they get hurt or driven away, when sometimes, thinking with the head could have prevented that from happening. I love the concept for that video, especially the lips on the heart. @Xibee — I think you’re right in saying that acting from the heart doesn’t necessarily mean manipulation, and that’s made me realize that it takes a certain amount of mental problems for someone to treat me the way Louise did.

@Zaira — There’s nothing wrong with acting from the heart, as long as you don’t hurt the person. Unfortunately, when acting on emotion without thinking or consideration for the other person involved, it’s often the case they get hurt or driven away, when sometimes, thinking with the head could have prevented that from happening.

I love the concept for that video, especially the lips on the heart.

]]> By: Zaira http://equivocality.com/2008/09/11/life-with-loo/#comment-27417 Zaira Tue, 16 Sep 2008 04:02:47 +0000 http://equivocality.com/?p=1570#comment-27417 What is wrong with acting out of your heart? I want to give my heart to the person I love, and sometimes it means acting the fool and hoping you don't hurt the person ( or yourself) in the process. and I'm digging this video right now....so captures the essence of a breakup. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kTVSygNKAsg What is wrong with acting out of your heart? I want to give my heart to the person I love, and sometimes it means acting the fool and hoping you don’t hurt the person ( or yourself) in the process.

and I’m digging this video right now.…so captures the essence of a breakup.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kTVSygNKAsg

]]> By: Xibee http://equivocality.com/2008/09/11/life-with-loo/#comment-27416 Xibee Tue, 16 Sep 2008 00:34:08 +0000 http://equivocality.com/?p=1570#comment-27416 I think acting out of one's heart -- while foolish, rash, and problematic for all involved -- has nothing to do with manipulation. I have often been guilty of the former, but the latter is SOOOooooo many other girls. Scary. I think acting out of one’s heart — while foolish, rash, and problematic for all involved — has nothing to do with manipulation.

I have often been guilty of the former, but the latter is SOOOooooo many other girls. Scary.

]]> By: Jeff http://equivocality.com/2008/09/11/life-with-loo/#comment-27409 Jeff Sun, 14 Sep 2008 13:04:39 +0000 http://equivocality.com/?p=1570#comment-27409 I completely agree...it surprises me how many girls just act completely out of their hearts, and end up doing something really stupid. They need to take a step back and think things through before they speak or act. Otherwise, they make a complete mess, then wonder what went wrong. I completely agree…it surprises me how many girls just act completely out of their hearts, and end up doing something really stupid. They need to take a step back and think things through before they speak or act. Otherwise, they make a complete mess, then wonder what went wrong.

]]> By: joe http://equivocality.com/2008/09/11/life-with-loo/#comment-27401 joe Sat, 13 Sep 2008 19:08:16 +0000 http://equivocality.com/?p=1570#comment-27401 I think Louise really has a problem. Sadly, I agree that most girls are crazy, they think with their hearts, not their heads. I think Louise really has a problem.

Sadly, I agree that most girls are crazy, they think with their hearts, not their heads.

]]> By: Jeff http://equivocality.com/2008/09/11/life-with-loo/#comment-27397 Jeff Thu, 11 Sep 2008 19:48:05 +0000 http://equivocality.com/?p=1570#comment-27397 <strong>@kyle</strong> — It seems to me like the one thing almost everyone can relate to is a bad ex. What we gain is an idea of what we <em>don't</em> want in a relationship, and a better appreciation of what we have now. Usually, that's good enough to make it worth it. <strong>@J.</strong> — I like to say that <em>most</em> girls are crazy. :) @kyle — It seems to me like the one thing almost everyone can relate to is a bad ex. What we gain is an idea of what we don’t want in a relationship, and a better appreciation of what we have now. Usually, that’s good enough to make it worth it.

@J. — I like to say that most girls are crazy. :)

]]> By: J. http://equivocality.com/2008/09/11/life-with-loo/#comment-27396 J. Thu, 11 Sep 2008 19:34:48 +0000 http://equivocality.com/?p=1570#comment-27396 some girls are just fucking crazy! .end rant some girls are just fucking crazy!

.end rant

]]> By: kyle http://equivocality.com/2008/09/11/life-with-loo/#comment-27395 kyle Thu, 11 Sep 2008 16:31:48 +0000 http://equivocality.com/?p=1570#comment-27395 Are you sure her name wasn't Tiffany? Four years ago I feel into a dangerous trap, and her name was Tiffany. We were both brand new in Japan (military) and didn't have any family to support us and hardly any friends. The few friends I did have set me up with her and thought we both had the same type of personality. And it first things were great. But it wasn't until we were planning on moving in together that things went all wrong. She went "crazy" and just wanted me to play her little games. And if I didn't cater to her needs then it was all my fault, or I was "too" emotional. Oh well. I hurt for what seemed a long time over her, way more than I should've. But now that's behind me and I can say in peace that I wish her well. My wife and I will celebrate our third anniversary this December and I'm so happy. Are you sure her name wasn’t Tiffany?

Four years ago I feel into a dangerous trap, and her name was Tiffany. We were both brand new in Japan (military) and didn’t have any family to support us and hardly any friends. The few friends I did have set me up with her and thought we both had the same type of personality. And it first things were great.

But it wasn’t until we were planning on moving in together that things went all wrong. She went “crazy” and just wanted me to play her little games. And if I didn’t cater to her needs then it was all my fault, or I was “too” emotional.

Oh well. I hurt for what seemed a long time over her, way more than I should’ve. But now that’s behind me and I can say in peace that I wish her well.

My wife and I will celebrate our third anniversary this December and I’m so happy.

]]> By: Jeff http://equivocality.com/2008/09/11/life-with-loo/#comment-27393 Jeff Thu, 11 Sep 2008 13:16:54 +0000 http://equivocality.com/?p=1570#comment-27393 In many ways, it's the present that's helped me realize what I was missing. I look at what I have now, and it's so much better than what I had before. Like you, I don't smile when I look back, I smile because it's over. You're one of the only people I know with a dark past similar to mine. I don't even really <em>know</em> it, yet I think we can understand and commiserate with each other the way no one else can. You're also the only person I know who's been able to overcome their past, and I think this makes our understanding of each other even stronger. In many ways, it’s the present that’s helped me realize what I was missing. I look at what I have now, and it’s so much better than what I had before.

Like you, I don’t smile when I look back, I smile because it’s over. You’re one of the only people I know with a dark past similar to mine. I don’t even really know it, yet I think we can understand and commiserate with each other the way no one else can. You’re also the only person I know who’s been able to overcome their past, and I think this makes our understanding of each other even stronger.

]]> By: Edrei http://equivocality.com/2008/09/11/life-with-loo/#comment-27392 Edrei Thu, 11 Sep 2008 13:04:08 +0000 http://equivocality.com/?p=1570#comment-27392 I know exactly how you feel. Some days you do have to tell yourself that you do deserve better. Though personally, even now, there is very little I can do to smile about the past. A lot about the past for me is painful, the memories, what was. It hurt. It should, those were troubled times. No matter what state of mind I'm in, I can never smile looking back on that again. The present however gives me plenty of reason to smile. Perhaps, that should be the only thing to smile at. While the past and all its sorrows stay in that past. There is no time like the present, so it might as well be something to smile at. I know exactly how you feel. Some days you do have to tell yourself that you do deserve better.

Though personally, even now, there is very little I can do to smile about the past. A lot about the past for me is painful, the memories, what was. It hurt. It should, those were troubled times. No matter what state of mind I’m in, I can never smile looking back on that again.

The present however gives me plenty of reason to smile. Perhaps, that should be the only thing to smile at. While the past and all its sorrows stay in that past. There is no time like the present, so it might as well be something to smile at.

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