Comments on: Issues In Others

By: Jeff

Jeff — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 05:57:12 +0000

@Pearl — You’re right, it’s difficult to tell how much awareness someone has. Definitely a judgment call, as in many other things in life.

@Lucy — I don’t see it as harsh, I see it as fair. I only hold others to the same standards to which I hold myself. Anything more would be hypocritical.

By: Lucy

Lucy — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 03:18:30 +0000

Harsh…but I understand exactly where you are coming from. They will sap the life right out of you.

By: Pearl

Pearl — Sat, 30 Aug 2008 16:08:35 +0000

um, to state the less obvious perhaps, it wouldn’t be an “issue” if it went away instantly with or without recognition. if a person “doing something”…or not or enough…bit hard to say what process is going on behind the scenes of the brain.

By: Jeff

Jeff — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 11:26:24 +0000

I don’t think I’ve quite reached that level of understanding yet, but I can definitely imagine how it can be scary. Of course, there are always those one-dimensional people one may meet, who within the first five minutes of talking to them you know exactly who they are.

There are some people to whom I’ve become close and I’ve only been able to “diagnose” their issues after therapy, and yes, it’s extremely frustrating to not be able to tell them because they don’t recognize their problems. Even recognizing complexes in movie characters is frustrating, cause you want to help them but realize it’s only fiction!

I think it’s an effort to change and improve that’s most significant. We’ve tried so hard to get to where we are now. I have no sympathy for people who don’t even try (yet are aware of their problems). Just getting angry at those who hurt us is both fruitless and idiotic.

By: Edrei

Edrei — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 14:23:55 +0000

The thing that really starts to scare you is when you start to read people before you actually get to know them as a person. Their mannerisms, actions reflecting upon subconscious traits that make them the people you eventually know.

The awful thing is that you know you can’t say anything to them because they will either deny that’s why they are or treat you as a crazy thing.

I get what you mean though. I’ve gone through a lot to become the person that I am. I refuse to believe that people can’t go beyond what they think are their limits to achieve what they want as well. At the very least try.