Tired of the Comfortable Stagnancy // equivocality

25 Jul 08

Posted in: Daily Life | Tags: busy, friends

I’m going through another phase where I’m tired of the comfortable stagnancy I’ve created for myself. I need to throw my life into a bit of disorder so I can fix it again.

So amongst the projects that have been occupying most of my time lately, I’ve started making plans to see friends I haven’t seen in a while. It’s about time for another long drive out to Toronto, a trip to John’s cottage, or playing host for dinner-and-a-movie-night.

There’s a different sort of comfort to be found in other people. It’s a different voice, instead of the one in my head. A way of gaining some objectivity. The key is finding right people. Fortunately, my friends all fit this category.

Maybe I’m trying to occupy myself, as a way to stop thinking so much. Maybe I’m just craving a change, because I think it’ll fill a little part of me that’s empty inside.

3 comments — Follow the feed

#1 Edrei

I couldn’t never stop thinking too much as much as I tried. It’s just part of my nature to do so.

Of course, if you really want to throw yourself out of whack, why not do something you’re least likely to do? Close an eye and pick something new and unexpected? After all, it’s one thing to create your own controlled chaos. It’s another to pick something that you have no idea where it’ll lead you. Sometimes the latter can be so much more fun.

#2 Sophia

Do you just want something different or do you want to mess something up so that you can work toward achieving a balance again? I get bored easily, but I definitely don’t want disorder either where I need to fix anything. I just experiment and try new things (and end up having way too many hobbies for one person).

Making the time to catch up with old friends is always good too, once everyone starts working, people need to make the extra effort to see each other.

#3 Jeff

@Edrei — Every now and then I do reach out and do something that puts me out of my comfort zone. But I can’t even remember the last time that happened, so I should definitely take your suggestion to heart.

@Sophia — I think I want a bit of both. To actually make something happen, sort of misses the point though. It’s the feeling of being slightly out-of-control that keeps things interesting.