Comments on: Kar-Ma http://equivocality.com/feeder/?FeederAction=clicked&feed=Comments+on+Articles+%28RSS2%29&seed=http%3A%2F%2Fequivocality.com%2F2008%2F07%2F11%2Fkar-ma%2F%23comment-&seed_title=Kar-Ma To be equivocal is to truly live. Thu, 08 Jan 2009 12:27:21 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Jeff http://equivocality.com/feeder/?FeederAction=clicked&feed=Comments+on+Articles+%28RSS2%29&seed=http%3A%2F%2Fequivocality.com%2F2008%2F07%2F11%2Fkar-ma%2F%23comment-26620&seed_title=Kar-Ma#comment-26620 Jeff Sun, 13 Jul 2008 14:18:33 +0000 http://equivocality.com/?p=1607#comment-26620 It's certainly a self-destructive feeling, something of which I do want to let go, but I can't. I think it's quite commendable that you were able to forgive your dad in such a way, and take care of him before his passing. Unfortunately, forgiveness in not a choice for me. The emotional scarring has made up my mind. It’s certainly a self-destructive feeling, something of which I do want to let go, but I can’t. I think it’s quite commendable that you were able to forgive your dad in such a way, and take care of him before his passing.

Unfortunately, forgiveness in not a choice for me. The emotional scarring has made up my mind.

]]> By: Lucy http://equivocality.com/feeder/?FeederAction=clicked&feed=Comments+on+Articles+%28RSS2%29&seed=http%3A%2F%2Fequivocality.com%2F2008%2F07%2F11%2Fkar-ma%2F%23comment-26607&seed_title=Kar-Ma#comment-26607 Lucy Sat, 12 Jul 2008 16:39:22 +0000 http://equivocality.com/?p=1607#comment-26607 I completely understand where you are coming from with this post. My parents divorced when I was 13 due to an alcoholic abusive dad. I vowed then (as I was young and totally oblivious to how life really works) that I would hate my dad for the rest of my life. As I grew older, I changed and finally had a talk with him about how I really felt. He was never going to change his ways and I could accept it or continue to hate him for the way he was always going to be. As fate would have it, I was the one he chose to spend his last days with. I took care of him until his last breath. I won't say I feel like I should be given a gold medal for being such a forgiving child after all the torment he put me and my family through, but I know I won't ever be asking myself "What if I had done this....." I realize this isn't the case with you and your parents, but I hate to see you think this way about your mother. Thinking like this often drains the very life out of you..... I completely understand where you are coming from with this post. My parents divorced when I was 13 due to an alcoholic abusive dad. I vowed then (as I was young and totally oblivious to how life really works) that I would hate my dad for the rest of my life. As I grew older, I changed and finally had a talk with him about how I really felt. He was never going to change his ways and I could accept it or continue to hate him for the way he was always going to be. As fate would have it, I was the one he chose to spend his last days with. I took care of him until his last breath. I won’t say I feel like I should be given a gold medal for being such a forgiving child after all the torment he put me and my family through, but I know I won’t ever be asking myself “What if I had done this…..” I realize this isn’t the case with you and your parents, but I hate to see you think this way about your mother. Thinking like this often drains the very life out of you…..

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