Comments on: Therapy in 140 Characters or Less

By: Jeff

Jeff — Sat, 08 Mar 2008 04:37:02 +0000

@Causalien — I wouldn’t get pissed off…quite the contrary from you. But I only take advice seriously from people I respect.

@Pearl — I’m going to have to agree with Xibee on this one. Could you clarify the questions you’re asking?

@Uncle Joe — I’ve been the same way, but I’ve decided to change and not presume the worst, because it can be problematic to be a pessimist. Doesn’t mean I’m trying to presume the best, but perhaps a balance. Being a realist instead.

@Xibee — Well said…things like this are ingrained and personal. It doesn’t just take someone close, it takes someone close who won’t give up on you.

By: Xibee

Xibee — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 18:35:55 +0000

Jeff (and Causalien), I think it’s normal for a person with this defense mechanism to only trust his or her dearest one with timorous hopes for change. But it doesn’t mean the others aren’t appreciated at all, or are unneeded in any way. They are often uncelebrated, but crucial. We can be so desperate under our surface that we cling to those calm supportive ones like railings around a perpetual ice rink of slippery doubts. Because we hold on to them all the time, we may forget to say anything. But we are very aware of what they are doing for us.

Pearl, your grammar is boggling me. I’ve no idea what you mean. And I think I do want to know what you mean.

By: joe

joe — Thu, 06 Mar 2008 17:02:38 +0000

some hopes can be realised only by chance, others can be realised by a combination of chance and efforts. So the element of chance always plays a big part. Me, I always presume the worst, that’s probably my defensive mechanism too. But hope does give you the drive, and it’s a good feeling.

By: Pearl

Pearl — Thu, 06 Mar 2008 16:34:22 +0000

Do you find that the things you are articulate in one mood you maintain as story of self after the mood passes? Or let that story fluidly pass? How things are, is it an identity or an examination? an observation or a imposition of narrative? These questions float thru me these days.

There are comparable to clinging to hope or allowing the float up and float down, watching the far horizon lest one get seasick, but not going to disconnect head–heart-body-space so much one forgets one is on a boat, if you see what I mean…

By: Causalien

Causalien — Thu, 06 Mar 2008 14:50:05 +0000

You only seem to accept that from certain people. I always get the feeling that you’ll get pissed off if coming from me.