The Ardent Friends // equivocality

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Sometimes, all I need is a friend to support me.

Even the times when I know I’m stupid or illogical. Especially those times, I just want someone to listen and agree.

I remember Aaron going through a rough patch a couple years ago. He told me he couldn’t let Rob know, because Rob would have jumped in his car and busted open some heads. Aaron confided in me because he needed an objective opinion to work through the situation, whereas Rob may have hurt more than help.

Even though I agreed, I felt like Rob’s ardent personality was a sign of true brotherhood. It doesn’t matter what the logic is, it doesn’t matter what the reasons are, your enemies are his enemies. It’s almost like he’s blinded by his love.

And as much as there are times when Aaron doesn’t tell Rob something, I’m sure there are times when doesn’t tell me things either because he needs an fervent friend. He needs someone who will take his side no matter what. I know I do.

Don’t get me wrong; I have plenty of friends I can go to for an honest opinion. In fact, I go to them more often than not. John’s always there to contradict me and keep me in check, Pat’s there to rationalize the situation, and Aaron’s there to help me find a solution. But every now and then, the unconditional support of an ardent friend gives me strength and courage more than anything else.

Everyone should have such security. To be able to call someone at any time of day who’ll be there in a heartbeat¹. Everyone should have a friend like Rob in their lives.

The ardent friends are just as important as the objective ones.

Of course, you have to earn that kind of respect from Rob, because he doesn’t give it to just anyone. [↑]

4 comments — Follow the feed

#1 Rob Mayer

jeff man im touched i rilly am and you need to know that you have such a friend in me aswell if somone is fuckin with you then let me know and i will be the friend u r looking for i have allways looked to destroy thows who would harm my friends and my family and to me you are both im allways a call away remember that

rob

#2 Causalien

Onegin’s buddy.

#3 Pearl

yeah, friends, it takes all kind to keep one level.

#4 Jeff

@Rob — I know man. I can’t offer friendship in the same way (cause I’m one of the objective friends), but I’m always there if you need a hand, an ear, or a level head.

@Causalien — Do mean Pechorin? Onegin didn’t really have a buddy. Neither did Pechorin though, they’re both from the same cultural Nihilism.

@Pearl — I’m only recently realizing how different friends serve different roles.