Comments on: The Weight Issue http://equivocality.com/2007/12/04/the-weight-issue/ To be equivocal is to truly live. Tue, 31 Jan 2012 15:14:10 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Jeff http://equivocality.com/2007/12/04/the-weight-issue/#comment-16192 Jeff Mon, 17 Dec 2007 04:40:33 +0000 http://equivocality.com/2007/12/04/the-weight-issue/#comment-16192 Yeah, there are certain aspects of attractiveness that you can't control (i.e. you're born with or without), but there are things you can control as well (i.e. physical size, mannerisms, overall masculinity). All other things being equal, my parents would hold an attractive son as more "valuable" than a less attractive one. No one said that love was fair, I suppose. And I always thought that girls who like lanky guys are a myth, up there with bigfoot, the abominable snowman, and girls who don't mind dating guys who are shorter than them. :) Yeah, there are certain aspects of attractiveness that you can’t control (i.e. you’re born with or without), but there are things you can control as well (i.e. physical size, mannerisms, overall masculinity). All other things being equal, my parents would hold an attractive son as more “valuable” than a less attractive one. No one said that love was fair, I suppose.

And I always thought that girls who like lanky guys are a myth, up there with bigfoot, the abominable snowman, and girls who don’t mind dating guys who are shorter than them. :)

]]> By: Jason http://equivocality.com/2007/12/04/the-weight-issue/#comment-16182 Jason Mon, 17 Dec 2007 02:15:50 +0000 http://equivocality.com/2007/12/04/the-weight-issue/#comment-16182 I'm familiar with earning love via grades, but attractiveness too? That's tough, I mean it's something that can't even really be controlled. Really? I should connect you with friends who go for the lanky types. :D hehe I’m familiar with earning love via grades, but attractiveness too? That’s tough, I mean it’s something that can’t even really be controlled.

Really? I should connect you with friends who go for the lanky types. :D hehe

]]> By: Jeff http://equivocality.com/2007/12/04/the-weight-issue/#comment-16113 Jeff Sat, 15 Dec 2007 03:10:10 +0000 http://equivocality.com/2007/12/04/the-weight-issue/#comment-16113 I never got it too harshly from my grandparents. They would mention it in passing, but I never felt like they never loved me because of it. My parents, on the other hand, made it seem like an ultimatum, and the only way I could earn their love was from grades and attractiveness. I'd agree with the brains over brawn thing, but it's not working for me. :D And don't worry, I closed your tag. I never got it too harshly from my grandparents. They would mention it in passing, but I never felt like they never loved me because of it. My parents, on the other hand, made it seem like an ultimatum, and the only way I could earn their love was from grades and attractiveness.

I’d agree with the brains over brawn thing, but it’s not working for me. :D

And don’t worry, I closed your tag.

]]> By: Jason http://equivocality.com/2007/12/04/the-weight-issue/#comment-16110 Jason Sat, 15 Dec 2007 02:34:09 +0000 http://equivocality.com/2007/12/04/the-weight-issue/#comment-16110 Oops. I forgot to close that tag. :P Oops. I forgot to close that tag. :P

]]> By: Jason http://equivocality.com/2007/12/04/the-weight-issue/#comment-16109 Jason Sat, 15 Dec 2007 02:33:45 +0000 http://equivocality.com/2007/12/04/the-weight-issue/#comment-16109 <blockquote>telling me that no one will love me if I’m this size forever.</blockquote> There is so much material for a satire of how to be a Chinese parent. I grew up hearing this too not only from my parents, but from my grandparents. That girls wanted big strong men. Brains over brawn I say. :)

telling me that no one will love me if I’m this size forever.

There is so much material for a satire of how to be a Chinese parent. I grew up hearing this too not only from my parents, but from my grandparents. That girls wanted big strong men. Brains over brawn I say. :)

]]> By: Jeff http://equivocality.com/2007/12/04/the-weight-issue/#comment-15826 Jeff Fri, 07 Dec 2007 16:01:43 +0000 http://equivocality.com/2007/12/04/the-weight-issue/#comment-15826 @Pearl — I think most people believe that they're being nice when they feign envy of my weight. You're right about the mental practice, and it's how I'm currently dealing with it. @Uncle Joe — I've realized that baggy clothing isn't just to hide my limbs, it's also my style. In addition to this, slightly loose clothing is still very small and makes me look small, so there lies my dilemma. Your short people with heels illustration is perfect. Thanks for the heads-up on the cell phone. I'm surprised that the sales representative told you it's a flaw with the system. Very poor customer service. @maeko — I think one of the reasons why we relate so well is because of our experiences with our parents. It's okay for a girl to be underweight though; for guys it's less "acceptable". @Sophia — <blockquote>it's whatever makes you feel good</blockquote> As simple as it is, I never really realized how true this is until you mentioned it (within reason, of course, any extreme is bad). I've also heard from a lot of people that it's better to be skinny than fat, which I suppose is the lesser of two evils. It's funny that your mom denied saying all those horrible things to you. Mine didn't deny it, but justified it by saying that's how she was raised. @Rob — Hahahahha...maybe if I want a...no, too mean. Next time I see you, I'll tell you what I was about to say. @Pearl — I think most people believe that they’re being nice when they feign envy of my weight. You’re right about the mental practice, and it’s how I’m currently dealing with it.

@Uncle Joe — I’ve realized that baggy clothing isn’t just to hide my limbs, it’s also my style. In addition to this, slightly loose clothing is still very small and makes me look small, so there lies my dilemma. Your short people with heels illustration is perfect.

Thanks for the heads-up on the cell phone. I’m surprised that the sales representative told you it’s a flaw with the system. Very poor customer service.

@maeko — I think one of the reasons why we relate so well is because of our experiences with our parents. It’s okay for a girl to be underweight though; for guys it’s less “acceptable”.

@Sophia —

it’s whatever makes you feel good

As simple as it is, I never really realized how true this is until you mentioned it (within reason, of course, any extreme is bad). I’ve also heard from a lot of people that it’s better to be skinny than fat, which I suppose is the lesser of two evils.

It’s funny that your mom denied saying all those horrible things to you. Mine didn’t deny it, but justified it by saying that’s how she was raised.

@Rob — Hahahahha…maybe if I want a…no, too mean. Next time I see you, I’ll tell you what I was about to say.

]]> By: Rob Mayer http://equivocality.com/2007/12/04/the-weight-issue/#comment-15802 Rob Mayer Fri, 07 Dec 2007 06:29:13 +0000 http://equivocality.com/2007/12/04/the-weight-issue/#comment-15802 just here to point out that doug was heavy when he got sara lol maybe you shuld be more like him feeling loud and tactless yet jeff my boy? just here to point out that doug was heavy when he got sara lol maybe you shuld be more like him feeling loud and tactless yet jeff my boy?

]]> By: Sophia http://equivocality.com/2007/12/04/the-weight-issue/#comment-15728 Sophia Thu, 06 Dec 2007 02:45:28 +0000 http://equivocality.com/2007/12/04/the-weight-issue/#comment-15728 My weight's always been a topic of conversation. I've only been gaining weight the last few years and even as I gain, then I also get the "oh don't gain too much or you'll get chunky." so what's the ideal weight? No one knows, it's whatever makes you feel good. If you happen to be on the thin side, who cares? I know skinny people who wear baggy clothes, I used to do it all the time and it didn't really bother me if it made me look extra skinny. I'd rather be skinny than fat. I wasn't marriage material either because I was lazy, didn't do any housework, I slouched, couldn't walk straight, had weird toes, nose was too short, etc etc. I don't know why moms say such horrible things to their kids and then deny it later as though it never happened. My weight’s always been a topic of conversation. I’ve only been gaining weight the last few years and even as I gain, then I also get the “oh don’t gain too much or you’ll get chunky.” so what’s the ideal weight? No one knows, it’s whatever makes you feel good. If you happen to be on the thin side, who cares? I know skinny people who wear baggy clothes, I used to do it all the time and it didn’t really bother me if it made me look extra skinny. I’d rather be skinny than fat.

I wasn’t marriage material either because I was lazy, didn’t do any housework, I slouched, couldn’t walk straight, had weird toes, nose was too short, etc etc. I don’t know why moms say such horrible things to their kids and then deny it later as though it never happened.

]]> By: maeko http://equivocality.com/2007/12/04/the-weight-issue/#comment-15725 maeko Thu, 06 Dec 2007 01:31:39 +0000 http://equivocality.com/2007/12/04/the-weight-issue/#comment-15725 My mum said I was the "darkie" in the family. She made me carry a parasol (aka umbrella with lace sewed to the edges to make it look fancy) when I walked home from school (southern ca) so I wouldn't get darker. If I stayed that dark, no one would want to ever marry me when I grew up. There were other reasons why I was not marriage material: too many videogames couldn't cook didn't do laundry well enough read fiction too much was going to be a writer (not desirable) bleh Oh, and I'm underweight. I've learned to be okay with it. Everyone in MI is grossly overweight. I'm lucky. And healthy. My mum said I was the “darkie” in the family.

She made me carry a parasol (aka umbrella with lace sewed to the edges to make it look fancy) when I walked home from school (southern ca) so I wouldn’t get darker. If I stayed that dark, no one would want to ever marry me when I grew up.

There were other reasons why I was not marriage material:

too many videogames
couldn’t cook
didn’t do laundry well enough
read fiction too much
was going to be a writer (not desirable)

bleh

Oh, and I’m underweight. I’ve learned to be okay with it. Everyone in MI is grossly overweight. I’m lucky. And healthy.

]]> By: joe http://equivocality.com/2007/12/04/the-weight-issue/#comment-15706 joe Wed, 05 Dec 2007 17:47:43 +0000 http://equivocality.com/2007/12/04/the-weight-issue/#comment-15706 Baggy clothing does make skinny people look even skinnier, it exaggerates the skinniness, or "emptiness". Slightly loose clothing best suits skinny people, it creates an illusion of fullness. I'm the expert on skinniness :). By the same token, short people should never wear ultra-high heels. As you're looking for a cell phone, your aunt Vivien just bought a SonyEricsson cell phone (low end model). It sends a lot of extraneous background noise to the receiving end, a sales lady (who also has a SonyEricsson) later told us it's a flaw of this brand. Bad choice. Baggy clothing does make skinny people look even skinnier, it exaggerates the skinniness, or “emptiness”. Slightly loose clothing best suits skinny people, it creates an illusion of fullness. I’m the expert on skinniness :). By the same token, short people should never wear ultra-high heels.

As you’re looking for a cell phone, your aunt Vivien just bought a SonyEricsson cell phone (low end model). It sends a lot of extraneous background noise to the receiving end, a sales lady (who also has a SonyEricsson) later told us it’s a flaw of this brand. Bad choice.

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