Comments on: A Truth is Worth a Million Words

By: Jeff

Jeff — Thu, 01 Nov 2007 11:33:56 +0000

I suppose that mind games could be considered worse, especially if one doesn’t know that they’re being played, but I’d personally prefer that over the arrogant assumptions.

By: Darren

Darren — Wed, 31 Oct 2007 19:48:13 +0000

haha the other day at the mall there was some girl at the shoe repair shop and some guy said something to her as she was walking away, but nobody understood what he said, including her, and she responded: “what? sorry boyfriend” and walked away with a smile. So funny

dropping the “b-bomb” is much better than a girl who teases you and hints interest when she really has no interest and knows that you have no chance in hell with her

By: Jeff

Jeff — Wed, 31 Oct 2007 03:17:11 +0000

This entry wasn’t about one person in particular, but it definitely draws from several experiences. It applies just as much to people who don’t know me. In fact, it would be even worse if someone did know me, because they should know better.

By: xibee

xibee — Wed, 31 Oct 2007 00:20:42 +0000

Oh so this is about a specific person…. I see…. Well that does sound a bit off.

(I’m just remembering the more agonizing points of my and my friends’ experience with unfamilliar guys in public situations. I wasn’t referring to a female someone who already (supposedly) knows or should have known you.)

By: Jeff

Jeff — Tue, 30 Oct 2007 02:47:39 +0000

I have to respectfully disagree.

I dated a girl once who constantly thought that I was too insecure and unconfident, because all her ex-boyfriends were this way. She would keep bringing it up, and I would keep reminding her that these ex-boyfriends are exes for a reason.

She based her opinion of me on her past experience. It was completely wrong and unfair for her to assume that I was the same way. It’s the same thing with girls who assume that you cheat simply because they’ve dated the wrong guys.

Closing down or saying no is fine, if it’s asked. Believing that someone is hitting on you just because they’re talking to you is arrogant. Believing that someone is in pain and that it’ll take them a long time to get over you is both arrogant and insulting.

By: xibee

xibee — Mon, 29 Oct 2007 23:42:22 +0000

You mustn’t assume girls “need to get over themselves” when they immediately head straight for protection over connection — they have simply learned to close down against an alarming number of guys (quite unlike yourself) who are interested in them for all the wrong reasons, and are hit on so often that they do end up being a bit knee-jerkish. This arises not from the girl being or even presuming she is beautiful, but rather from the low habit of many of the less gentlemanly to routinely trawl for whatever they can get sexually. Many aren’t even interested in that particular girl, but rather in whether they succeed. Being confronted with this level of insincerity repeatedly can ruin it for the rest of you guys.

By: Jeff

Jeff — Sun, 28 Oct 2007 12:46:56 +0000

@Salik — I don’t quite agree that no one can describe anyone better than what he/she is because I find that a lot of the times people don’t know themselves very well, but perhaps I’m misunderstanding your sentence. The fact that we all make interpretations of other people’s interpretations is very true though.

@Causalien — That’s very interesting. It made me realize that I always try to be conscious of the purposes of my actions. I never stop evaluating, then re-evaluating myself to just let it go as needless processing. And I never try to block out anything intentionally, even if it’s a guilty pleasure. Otherwise, I feel like I’m fooling myself. It seems kind of paradoxical, but guilty pleasures stop being guilty when you embrace them.

By: Causalien

Causalien — Sun, 28 Oct 2007 06:21:34 +0000

Sometimes the purpose didn’t reach the conscious mind, or gets discarded as information that doesn’t need processing. Other times, I intentionally block out knowing the purpose because if I have a clear idea of what the purpose is, I won’t do it. Usually associated with guilty pleasure.

By: Salik

Salik — Fri, 26 Oct 2007 15:05:43 +0000

No one can describe anyone else better than what s/he is… They will assume that other people are same like them, with same line of attitude… They’ll judge you through their views. And, it’s funny how I react to them. This girl thinks I’m a fool, and I begin to accept I am! My friend’s girlfriend left him, said he was a fucking bastard… and he has not been able to come out of it- he says often “yes i am…” I’ve seen his frustration, and wonder why we just can’t let them go… It is really hard when the one you love the most hates you on the basis of her interpretations of who you might be- and not what you are…
“You learn a lot about a person from the way they interpret things and from the way they see the world.”
Yes, I agree. But then, you are again making interpretations/assumptions of that person the way you want…

By: Jeff

Jeff — Fri, 26 Oct 2007 12:23:21 +0000

@Pearl — In some cases, it does take some responsibility to understand how others interpret things. One shouldn’t make a joke at a funeral, for example, unless one knows that the grieving people enjoy that sort of morbid humour.

However, as you say, there’s only so much one can do. Other people having an equal responsibility is exactly right. Some people, no matter how many times you say something, no matter how you say it, just don’t get it. I find that most often, these are the “self-involved” ones, as you put it.

@Causalien — Glad I could help. What I’m confused about is this: you say that having a purpose in your action clarifies your intentions. Don’t all of your actions have a purpose?

@Vidar — A rather humorous shortcut, one I should have taken many times before.