Comments on: The Death of Romance

By: Jeff

Jeff — Sun, 24 Jun 2007 22:23:41 +0000

I see what you’re trying to say, but you have to admit that it takes the right person to be so dynamic that after so many years they can still surprise you. If you can find someone like that, then I’d agree that the discover-and-explore mentality would live on.

By: Kloudiia

Kloudiia — Sun, 24 Jun 2007 05:59:09 +0000

Hi Jeff, am new here!

Didn’t know how your layout used to be like, but I’d like to compliment on this current one that I love very much! Simple, elegant and clean. Nice lines…

As for relationship, well, can’t help leaving a comment on this post. You’re mostly right I guess that romance does fizzle out, then again, when you’re at a different level with your partner, there are things that are yet to be discovered, as we all change from time to time, and when circumstances made them so.

So, it’s more of a wanting-to-discover-and-explore mentality that recreate romance within a long-lasting relationship where love is still strong I guess. haha

By: Jeff

Jeff — Wed, 20 Jun 2007 02:46:08 +0000

Yep, I’m still tweaking it a bit. I never had related posts until now actually, but the post meta was at the bottom.

I had never even considered those such as yourself with a religious upbringing. I never would have imagined that it mattered though; a late beginning is still a beginning.

By: Pearl

Pearl — Tue, 19 Jun 2007 19:58:32 +0000

Still playing with layout? Not sure about the left sidebar stuff…a few iterations ago was related posts at post bottom?

You had dif thrilling teen years than me. Nostalgia for what I never did, those universals of dating and drinking and dancing and love and loss. All those years married to Christ had an irretrievable cost.

Fresh entries to new things are key, I agree.

By: Jeff

Jeff — Tue, 19 Jun 2007 11:12:24 +0000

You have an interesting perspective that I haven’t considered before. You’re right, I wouldn’t trade my memories and experiences for anything, but you have the mystery that I’ll never get back. You’ll be able to approach relationships with a fresh mindset, with the glorious wonder that makes it so fun.

I’m not saying that one situation is better than the other, just that each one has it’s unique advantages.

By: Reno

Reno — Tue, 19 Jun 2007 01:44:21 +0000

Having never been in a relationship at 22 this bit’s hard for me to relate to, but I can only theoretically understand what you’re saying here. Having read your letters series though, I’d have to say I’d much rather have experienced a few things by now than still having a large amount of mystery left.

By: Jeff

Jeff — Mon, 18 Jun 2007 23:26:22 +0000

@trolley — Thanks! I’m considering something like OpenID, or maybe Gravatars, but I haven’t decided yet.

@xibee — You hit the nail on the head. I’ve been disappointed many times by other people’s ideas when it comes to their idea of love. It made me realize how unsatisfied I am in my relationships when someone isn’t willing to sacrifice as much as I am.

I’m hoping to find another level to connection as well. Life’s no fun when you feel like you’ve got all the answers.

By: xibee

xibee — Mon, 18 Jun 2007 20:21:55 +0000

I had had no idea that others might find my attitude toward love so strikingly different from theirs as when I wrote a publicly disclosed piece (which may have bordered on bad poetry, actually….).
It made me see my ideas of love, while not immature, are willing to go so much further than most people’s. Not in terms of self-degradation or anything, but in a sense of constance and at a level most people seem unable to maintain anymore. It saddened me somewhat to find that out. Quixotic, as I mentioned.

I would hope for you to discover some new sense of deepened nervous monumental connection and that will just be another level….

By: trolley

trolley — Mon, 18 Jun 2007 15:10:04 +0000

Dude, your new layout is amazing!

You should install the OpenID plugin…I’m starting to use it instead of having separate accounts for every site.