Comments on: Jealousy As Insecurity As Love

By: Jeff

Jeff — Wed, 07 Feb 2007 12:44:44 +0000

It’s definitely not easy to do. Some feelings you just want to deny, or pretend they aren’t there.

By: Jessy

Jessy — Mon, 05 Feb 2007 19:00:07 +0000

I think its so awesome that you are so in tune with yourself that you can actually decipher your feelings from one-another. I think that is a talent. And thank you for feeling insecure about your friendship, it makes me feel not so alone. I always though i was fucked in the head for feeling insecure in some of my friendships, but i think thats healthy as well. Im learning that my definition of relationships changes 10 fold with every new person that i encounter.

By: Jeff

Jeff — Mon, 05 Feb 2007 03:15:35 +0000

@amy — You’re right…love isn’t something so limited as to what I said. It can be dangerous to interpret what love is.

It’s still hard to accept my silly emotional reaction though. As ephemeral as it was, I don’t think I should have felt it at all.

@Xibee — You know, I’ve never thought of my reaction as the result of my lack of healthy connections, but it makes sense the more I think about it. I just hope I’m not looking for something to blame.

By: Xibee

Xibee — Sat, 03 Feb 2007 22:27:38 +0000

Those of us who’ve had so little healthy connection to affection often feel a bit grabby, it’s normal.

This is just a mid-stage, soon to be replaced by the magnanimous feeling that you would be willing to give up anything for your friend’s happiness; even to the willingness to give up your own place in their life.

By: amy

amy — Fri, 02 Feb 2007 23:50:20 +0000

love is far more than insecurity or jealousy.
Those are mere whims of ego.
And I know that you know that..already..
love is without judgement..
don’t be so hard on yourself for emotional reations you have to things..be without judgement for yourself too.

I certainly ‘get’ that you treasure your connection with Pat.
An opportunity to give from the heart is a treasure as well. Nice to hear your embracing it with enthusiasm.

cheers!