I’d say that if people think you’re horrible and crazy based on what someone else says, they’re just as much at fault for being too sequacious to believe it without getting both sides of the story. People can (and should) make decisions for themselves at any time, even after they’re given information. It doesn’t matter if your ex made up lies about you and already told them. The burden of proof is on them to find out the truth. Unfortunately, most people don’t and sheepishly believe anything their told. Just remember that a truth is worth a million words.

A slightly less than attractive girl named Louise would have to be a knockout in bed.

And allow my joking to cease.

Thank you.

I remember a poll once of the top 10 favourite movies, and all of them had very polarized “good” and “bad” sides. No complex characters, just pure good or evil, like Star Wars. It’s easier to hate the villian when they have no redeeming qualities.

@Causalien — There’s a difference between being conscious and being completely unaware that you’re doing such a thing. I’d say in your case it’s more of “pretending” (a conscious thing) than “believing” (subconsciously). Those who pretend are making light of a bad situation; I don’t think this would hamper leadership or confidence. Those who believe are the ones who can’t accept the truth, hence the fabrication.

Sometimes, believing that something will happen the way you want and has happened the way you want, facilitates others to follow suit. Like walking in to an party completely uninvited but acting as if you are the guest of the host. I always wondered if this self reflection and checking process will put a hamper on leadership and confidence.