I’m sure there’s something to your theory about subconsciousness decisions. Men’s ties are big arrows to their penises, dangling necklaces draw attention to breasts. We hardly realize these things nowadays.

It always amazes me how some relationships may be so one-sided. When one person puts all the effort into it and never sees a break-up coming. I think my relationship with Michele was like yours, except I was on the other side.

I think most people, not just boys, are hormonal and less self-aware.

I was mad about a guy once, thought I’d even marry him, when I was young. He broke up with me at college when summer came and he wanted to do…whatever he wanted…I was so shocked. After three years of my utter devotion. And stranger still, when I contacted him years later just to talk about a mutual friend, we discussed our relationship. He hadn’t remembered ANYTHING of my devotion or affectionate things I did for him. He had NO IDEA I was that attached to him. I had thought I wasn’t pretty enough for him — but he married a very plain looking wife when he was older.

Funny thing was — he did remember how he’d first seen me in a pair of black pants and a silver and black sweater. I have to think boys are just more hormonal and less self-aware.

@Bean - I hope Michele has changed for the better too, although we broke up because I didn’t think it was in her capacity to do so.

You’re right though, every experience teaches us what we don’t want, and that relationship was a very good lesson.

Thanks Beanie.

Meanwhile I’m SO glad this isn’t written about me. I think the last thing I would want people to say about me is that I was boring. I hope for Michele’s sake that she got some personality and a bit of lust for.. ahem.. life after you guys parted ways.

Still, every experience like that just lets us know what it is we are *not* looking for, eh?

You continue to amaze me with your writing. So easy to picture .. more than picture.. feel what you are writing about, the people, the moments in time. I wish I could take a leaf out of your book.

Thanks again Jeff