Comments on: Letter To An Ex-Girlfriend: Ashley

By: Bean

Bean — Wed, 22 Nov 2006 03:11:03 +0000

Absolutely worth waiting for the person you can’t live without. It’s your life, you only get one. Best of luck with the hunt

By: Jeff

Jeff — Tue, 21 Nov 2006 12:49:33 +0000

@pita - That can make sense. A lot of doms at work are subs at home because they don’t want to be responsible all the time, and need a change. However, as far as I understand, one shouldn’t define oneself but what one does, but by what one feels. I use to think the world was black and white, and categorize people as either sub or dom, but I now know many people who are neither. You may be one of these if a strong sense isn’t pulling you in one direction.

@trex eden - I’ve realized that there’s no perfect person for a while now, after meeting many couples who are in die-hard love, yet still have their fights and their differences. If you’ve realized this as a teenager then you’re way ahead of me. What’s the fun in perfect anyway?

I don’t quite agree about “[settling] on the person who your heart beats for” though. I’m someone who believes in marrying the right person or not marrying at all. Maybe you didn’t meant to say “settle on”, which to me is marrying the person you can live with, not the person you can’t live without.

You bring up an interesting point about what happens if one person dies before the other. I’ve used to think of such things, in the old logic of the “perfect mate”, and wondered what I would do if the other died first. Your committment to live makes a great deal of sense, and I like your idea of no one having the ability to hold your life and help you live it.

By: trex eden

trex eden — Tue, 21 Nov 2006 11:20:25 +0000

I really like your blog because it touches on something I can realate to. Like you, I have spent most of my teenage life looking for the “perfect” person who I can’t live without. However, I soon realized that no person has the ability to hold my life and help me live it. I have the power over this gift God has given me. With that realization and veracity accepted, I have opened my eyes to the person I know I would want to spend my life with. If that person would die before I do, I’d still go on living, knowing that that’s what he’d want me to do.
So, don’t go on looking for the “perfect” person because you could never find one. Instead, settle on the person who your heart beats for, who makes you smile and cry. Lastly, be contented on the person whose name your hypothalamus shouts.
Good luck!

By: pita

pita — Tue, 21 Nov 2006 01:10:55 +0000

I am contemplating the fact that I might be a sub because of my natural dom tendency. Does that make sense?