Comments on: Letter To An Ex-Girlfriend: Introduction

By: Jeff

Jeff — Sat, 19 Jul 2008 23:28:49 +0000

I don’t see a problem with contacting your ex, especially if you have such a strong sense to do so. I think it’s important to pay attention to those kind of instincts.

You should approach it gently and with consideration, however. You need to be careful of her own feelings, as being approached by an old lover can be quite jarring, even if it’s the form of a letter.

And don’t be offended if she doesn’t want to be contacted. Some people have moved on, and don’t expect or want to have a past dug up, especially if you didn’t part on good terms.

By: Eddie

Eddie — Tue, 08 Jul 2008 13:24:07 +0000

Thanks for the insight.
I’ve been debating if I should contact my first love after 19 years of silence. I don’t know why, but it’s been the only thing I can think of for the past two weeks. It almost feels like something is telling me to contact her. I was on the net and Googled her name only to find she never changed her last name (likely never married) and only lives 10 miles from me. We both have moved several times, including long distance moves, and we both moved back to the same area in 2005. Our departure from one antoher was not on good terms and I’m simply looking for advice if I should leave this alone or take the chance and send her a letter. I would like for her to know how much she still means to me and that I still care greatly for her.

If any women can give me some direction it would be greatly appreciated.

By: mikealao

mikealao — Mon, 20 Nov 2006 11:46:17 +0000

Hi,

I had an ex call me a couple of months ago. Supposedly it was a step in her 12-step program to reach out to those that she had hurt. She did hurt me, but it was before she became a user — of drugs, that is. I would have liked to continue staying in touch with her, but I ran into a similar thing as you did — she wasn’t open anymore the way that she had been. Without that openness I simply had no desire to call her back.

Best regards,

mikealao

By: Jeff

Jeff — Mon, 20 Nov 2006 11:21:57 +0000

@Jason — Not a problem, I’m always trying to espouse on the use of WordPress, especially over the evil Movable Type.

It’s always a risk to bring back old memories; things can always go either way. Sometimes it takes a leap of faith to hit “publish”. It also helps if you feel that it’s worth the risk.

@scarlet woundsmile — It’s comforting to know that I’m not the only one who feels this way. I’m sure I’m as glad as you are. :)

By: scarlet woundsmile

scarlet woundsmile — Mon, 20 Nov 2006 00:39:54 +0000

this truly resonates…in a deep way. i’m glad there are kindreds out there :)

By: Jason

Jason — Fri, 17 Nov 2006 19:18:06 +0000

I just wanted to drop by to say thanks for introducing me to WordPress, I’ve started promoting its use instead of Movable Type and have had a more enjoyable time playing around with it, especially since the price is right. :)

Your post hit a resonant chord. I contacted an ex last year after 5 years of silence and I realized after that experience that there is sometimes good reason for those silences to remain. I’ve always wanted to write a long entry entitled “letters to all the girls I’ve loved”, but I never seem to be able to hit the “post” button.

By: Jeff

Jeff — Fri, 17 Nov 2006 14:15:45 +0000

I think it’s a common thing to always be curious about how our friends end up, let alone what different paths we have yet to take individually.

Thanks for de-lurking, it’s always nice to know who’s reading. :)

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Fri, 17 Nov 2006 05:08:12 +0000

I’ve been reading some of your insightful blog entries for a while, and it never ceases to amaze me the different paths in life that everyone takes. I’m barely beginning my life, still wondering where this road will take me. Hmm..not much else to say unfortunately, but I’ll be around randomly commenting on the moments of your life that you’ve decided to share with the rest of the world.

–Rebecca

By: Jeff

Jeff — Thu, 16 Nov 2006 13:23:01 +0000

There are people in my life with whom I can be totally open, but it’s only close friends. People like that are few and far between.

For most other people, I think it’d be pretty inappropriate to say what I want. It would just create a lot of drama, and many aren’t prepared to hear the truth (or my version of it, at least). Maybe that’s why I write here so often.

By: Bean

Bean — Wed, 15 Nov 2006 22:55:36 +0000

Not wanting to in any way diminish the value of the blog for expressing yourself, but I do hope there’s people in your life you can say whatever you want to ask well. I think that’s probably pretty important.