Comments on: The Maternal Grudge http://equivocality.com/feeder/?FeederAction=clicked&feed=Comments+on+Articles+%28RSS2%29&seed=http%3A%2F%2Fequivocality.com%2F2006%2F08%2F04%2Fthe-maternal-grudge%2F%23comment-&seed_title=The+Maternal+Grudge To be equivocal is to truly live. Fri, 05 Sep 2008 20:50:31 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: joy-joy http://equivocality.com/feeder/?FeederAction=clicked&feed=Comments+on+Articles+%28RSS2%29&seed=http%3A%2F%2Fequivocality.com%2F2006%2F08%2F04%2Fthe-maternal-grudge%2F%23comment-953&seed_title=The+Maternal+Grudge#comment-953 joy-joy Tue, 12 Sep 2006 05:15:29 +0000 http://equivocality.com/2006/08/04/the-maternal-grudge/#comment-953 reminds me of the "Prince of Tides"... reminds me of the “Prince of Tides”…

]]> By: Jeff http://equivocality.com/feeder/?FeederAction=clicked&feed=Comments+on+Articles+%28RSS2%29&seed=http%3A%2F%2Fequivocality.com%2F2006%2F08%2F04%2Fthe-maternal-grudge%2F%23comment-917&seed_title=The+Maternal+Grudge#comment-917 Jeff Fri, 11 Aug 2006 03:08:18 +0000 http://equivocality.com/2006/08/04/the-maternal-grudge/#comment-917 I used to be scared to have children, because I was afraid that I'd grow up to abuse them the way mine abused me. The more people I talk to, however, the more I see that they've come from bad and broken homes, and this only makes stronger their conviction to raise their children well. Thanks for helping me realize this. I used to be scared to have children, because I was afraid that I’d grow up to abuse them the way mine abused me. The more people I talk to, however, the more I see that they’ve come from bad and broken homes, and this only makes stronger their conviction to raise their children well.

Thanks for helping me realize this.

]]> By: Pita http://equivocality.com/feeder/?FeederAction=clicked&feed=Comments+on+Articles+%28RSS2%29&seed=http%3A%2F%2Fequivocality.com%2F2006%2F08%2F04%2Fthe-maternal-grudge%2F%23comment-905&seed_title=The+Maternal+Grudge#comment-905 Pita Sun, 06 Aug 2006 01:11:46 +0000 http://equivocality.com/2006/08/04/the-maternal-grudge/#comment-905 Whatever they couldn't provide, you'd end up having to supply them, because they lack that to begin with and you learnt from growing up with that lacking. Parents are such interesting species. It's as if they returned to a childhood state. Whatever they couldn’t provide, you’d end up having to supply them, because they lack that to begin with and you learnt from growing up with that lacking. Parents are such interesting species. It’s as if they returned to a childhood state.

]]> By: Amy http://equivocality.com/feeder/?FeederAction=clicked&feed=Comments+on+Articles+%28RSS2%29&seed=http%3A%2F%2Fequivocality.com%2F2006%2F08%2F04%2Fthe-maternal-grudge%2F%23comment-904&seed_title=The+Maternal+Grudge#comment-904 Amy Sat, 05 Aug 2006 05:44:19 +0000 http://equivocality.com/2006/08/04/the-maternal-grudge/#comment-904 whew tough times I'm sure glad I had more than one child...especially for that reason... without even knowing it, parents can easily 'put all their eggs in one basket' and feel like; you should want for u, what they want, because, after all, they only want the best for you...right? how could they ? Parenting is tough, emotionally on the on hand you LOVE your child SO much, you want to make THEIR life everything yours wasn't but it's not the job of a parent as much as parents would like it to be all you can do, is raise your child, the best you know how, KNOWING that YOU set the example.....'do as I say' doesnt work.... beyond that, the life belongs to the child a child owes a parent ...depending on the parenting...either very little or a very respectful THANKS and I LOVE YOU, and thank you for loving me there's nothing else parents don't own their child's life nor control it So sad to hear your mum is soooo sad I hope she can go see a counsilor or therapist... It's an inner journey for her well and for you too abuse always leaves deep scars of rage and resentment... the loss of a sense of security, in your home and in your world. It's amazing how raising your own children brings it RIGHT back into your face... how I feel so driven to ensure my child's start in life is better than mine was but the best way to do that is to 'work' on myself so cleaning out all the near forgotten demons, is in order, because children can see thru anything you know that all the stuff that happens to you early in life casts a dark, FAR reaching, shadow over more than u realize....trust me as I'm....ugh ..37 now Enjoy the trip and the adventure now's the time to do it, you've no heavy responsibility cheers from the West... Amy whew
tough times
I’m sure glad I had more than one child…especially for that reason…
without even knowing it, parents can easily ‘put all their eggs in one basket’
and feel like; you should want for u, what they want, because, after all, they only want the best for you…right?
how could they ?
Parenting is tough, emotionally
on the on hand you LOVE your child SO much, you want to make THEIR life everything yours wasn’t
but
it’s not the job of a parent
as much as parents would like it to be
all you can do, is raise your child, the best you know how, KNOWING that YOU set the example…..’do as I say’ doesnt work….
beyond that, the life belongs to the child
a child owes a parent …depending on the parenting…either very little
or a very respectful THANKS and I LOVE YOU, and thank you for loving me

there’s nothing else
parents don’t own their child’s life
nor control it

So sad to hear your mum is soooo sad
I hope she can go see a counsilor or therapist…
It’s an inner journey for her
well
and for you too
abuse always leaves deep scars of rage and resentment…
the loss of a sense of security, in your home and in your world.
It’s amazing how raising your own children brings it RIGHT back into your face…
how I feel so driven to ensure my child’s start in life is better than mine was
but
the best way to do that is to ‘work’ on myself
so
cleaning out all the near forgotten demons, is in order, because children can see thru anything
you know that

all the stuff that happens to you early in life casts a dark, FAR reaching, shadow over more than u realize….trust me
as I’m….ugh ..37 now
Enjoy the trip and the adventure
now’s the time to do it, you’ve no heavy responsibility

cheers
from the West…
Amy

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