Comments on: What To Accept?

By: Winston

Winston — Mon, 07 Aug 2006 00:21:42 +0000

Never try to change others, for it is not within your power. Always work to change yourself, precisely because you are the only one who can.

By: Jeff

Jeff — Sun, 23 Jul 2006 18:05:46 +0000

Wow, Amy…you’re definitely someone who understands completely what I’m saying. Kinda comforting to know I’m not alone.

I imagine that once I have kids (if ever), my goal in life will change to improving for them, instead of myself.

As for the movie, I haven’t seen it yet, but I did notice it in the local video store ever since you mentioned it a few posts back. It’s first on my list once I have time to get a membership.

By: amy

amy — Mon, 17 Jul 2006 21:06:58 +0000

i read the other blog entry..regarding self improvement
I agree , it is the highest goal..the BEST thing I can do for my kids, is to constantly be improving myself , being aware of myself and WHAT I’m doing..
What I do has far more power (esp. in a child’s eye) than what I say!

but remember, everybody has weaknesses…everybody
a weakness, implies a vulnerability..and everybody has the ability to be vulnerable..that the MOST human aspect of us…that’s what takes the MOST courage and strength..to be vulnerable..to allow yourself to be vulnerable…THAT is true courage…

so, improve away….part of ‘improving’ my be accepting your weaknesses…
have you seen the movie; What the Bleep Do We Know?
REALLY…go rent it if you haven’t
THAT will ROCK your world..
or not…
for me it just confirmed everything deep secret truth my soul knew about…so it really wasn’t a surprise…but it was an eye OPENER!

ok…enough typing :Cheers, AMy

By: amy

amy — Mon, 17 Jul 2006 20:59:05 +0000

my first marriage failed because of this ‘change’
I fell in love with his potential and what I saw as his potential, rather than what was right there.

You are completely correct. If you love yourself, flaws and all (NObody is perfect, no matter how much you try to change) then you’ll be able to love someone else, with their flaws too…but you gotta love them with their flaws…if it’s a problem..then just ask yourself if you could live with that flaw the rest of your life???
for me , it’s that my husband has poor table manners….
He’s no concept or awareness of ’social norms’ around eating, let alone ‘dining’ in fine restaurants…
BUT
he’s the most loyal man I ever met, and loyalty and honesty are far more imp than slurping his food or hovering over his plate..so there ya have it

My experiences shows me that whenever I become critical of the other in my relationship it’s because of my own dissatisfaction with something in my life or something in myself…

those close to us are only mirrors…

and YES
having children is like re-living part of your childhood..because WHO opens all the toys and sets them up???
parents!!!!
besides there’s no therapy like raising your own kids and giving them what YOU lacked…not material things…intangible things… like unconditional love and the skills to deal with their emotions, support at every turn…it’s very therapeutic…

but I’m glad that I waited til my 30-somethings to have them
no WAY I would have been the parent I am now….10 yrs ago…
thanks for visiting my humble blog