I have an extremely difficult time dealing with people who choose to complain about something and do nothing about it. These are the people who gripe about the jobs that feed them, decry the relationships they’re too scared to leave, pine for better lives when a better life is only a few steps away. Religious doctrines of predestination aside, as humans we’re the masters of our fate. We control what happens, because we have the responsibility — the response ability — to make change happen.
When the bad starts to outweigh the good, then it’s time to shut the fuck up and be active in changing the situation. When the good is still greater than the bad, then it’s time to shut the fuck up and deal with whatever minor problems there are.
And when life hands you lemons, make lemonade, try to find a guy whose life has given him vodka, and have a party.
How about people who complain about life and do choose to do something about it? I just talked with a friend about it. He’s going through a rough patch trying to understand a lot of things about his life, he was telling me about his thoughts and emotions then after an hour or so, he said — “well enough, I don’t want to be one of those people who just vent all the time”. I told him that what’s boring about people who bitch and moan all the time is that they are unopen to the prospect of change, that they think that complaining is all there is to it, that once they blow enough steam and feel temporary better then that’s that, while when someone talks about their problems with intention to cause change in their lives, when they approach the conversation as a first step to create that change, then that’s the most interesting thing in the world to talk about.
I mean, other then ourselves, what else do we have to share with others?
friendly greetings, and jeff, your several astute writings, and comments added such as from lilly (aug18), are certainly worth sharing.
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best wishes,
yIM: davemclallen
birmingham, al usa