You ever wonder about the people that say “Well, if so and so doesn’t like me for who I am, then maybe we shouldn’t be friends”. Then… in the end, if someone with this attitude ends up with no friends, they might rethink things and “change” the way they are, hoping to gain new friends.
Now, if you become friends with this person, are you really ‘friends’ or friends with who ‘you want’ them to be?
A complicated comment, but I find that one just becomes friends with someone wants them to be. In general I personally believe that changing for someone doesn’t work. In my experience the “true self” comes out after a while, and nothing has changed at that point.
A serious, conscious, long-term, overall change of personality can be seen as an attempt at self-improvement (hence acceptable in my books), but I haven’t met many who were committed enough to pull that off.
You ever wonder about the people that say “Well, if so and so doesn’t like me for who I am, then maybe we shouldn’t be friends”. Then… in the end, if someone with this attitude ends up with no friends, they might rethink things and “change” the way they are, hoping to gain new friends.
Now, if you become friends with this person, are you really ‘friends’ or friends with who ‘you want’ them to be?
Too much thinking for a thursday night …
A complicated comment, but I find that one just becomes friends with someone wants them to be. In general I personally believe that changing for someone doesn’t work. In my experience the “true self” comes out after a while, and nothing has changed at that point.
A serious, conscious, long-term, overall change of personality can be seen as an attempt at self-improvement (hence acceptable in my books), but I haven’t met many who were committed enough to pull that off.