I’ve been invited to the wed­ding of a cousin I never knew existed until last week. Actually, there are three cousins I didn’t know about, because she has two sis­ters too. I didn’t even know that I had a fourth aunt until I sud­denly came face to face with her as I walked into my grand­moth­ers apart­ment at one point, and thought that she bared a close resem­blance to my father. I don’t remem­ber ever meet­ing her, although she claims to have held me as a baby, so I prob­a­bly haven’t seen her in 20 odd years. My par­ents have never men­tioned her, and have never brought me to meet her fam­ily before. Nevertheless, the wed­ding will be in a church at first, as a sort of west­ern style, then held in a ban­quet hall in Chinese fash­ion. I don’t believe that I’ve ever attended a Chinese tra­di­tional wed­ding (that I can remem­ber at least), so I’m look­ing for­ward to it.