I had no idea what I was going to name this entry until I saw Shaolin Soccer again.
I’ve discussed weakness in the past, and how it is frustrating to be a “weak person”. Now I realize that I’ve confused weakness with acceptance, that acceptance is not a sign of weakness but of strength.
It’s not easy to accept something that is imposed. Sometimes it is all that can be done and one must allow a certain discomfort involved to be present. Sometimes accepting is the best solution, even though one may not like it. However, it’s easy to be a weak person. It’s easy to give in, easy to let things go. The difference lies in how much of ourselves we give up and how much we’re willing to give up, and being able to distinguish the two becomes a task based on experience and the people involved.
I believe that I’ve been both weak and accepting in the past. Both are still possible, although I think that I’m more accepting now due to an increase in confidence.
Being able to distinguish the two in myself has become ever harder.
Whatever Man!
You need to get some balls and decide what is important in life. So life is hard.
Yes, sometimes you may run into a wall that may keep you from your goals or well the world in general is a ‘screwed up’ place and you just have to deal with things as they come along knowing solutions may be around the corner.
Just say to yourself– “Whatever”! “ That’s Kewl”.
Surely a simplistic devise to cope– but your blood pressure will drop and “Whatever Man”, just deal with life till you come up with your own solutions and don’t be a “Door Mat”.
Sincerely–
Mishka Alexander Dragon
I think my point here has been completely missed.
Unfortunately, the “So life is hard” sentence is incomplete, and it seems to be at a point in the comment that makes it important, so I’m not sure I understand the of the comment point in turn. “So, life is hard, so what”? “So life is hard, that’s what you should expect”? “So life is hard, kill yourself”? “So life is hard, get used to it”?
I fail to see how “growing some balls” is related to “deciding what is important in life” unless one makes such a decision based on balls, but again, I’m not sure. I’ve already decided what’s important in my life and this isn’t related to the excessively ginormous size of my genetalia (I speak only in jest here, the wang I’m referring to is only a 1/18th scale of the actual size).
I’m also not sure what is constituted as being a “door mat”, but I’m assuming that it means being someone who is taken advantage of, since it conjures up the metaphoric “being walked all over” image. However, I still fail to see how this is related to the rest of the argument and saying “Whatever man”. I already have my ways of coping with things, a primary one being the logging of it here, and they work fairly well.
And yet this all has nothing to do with what I originally posted, which was a discussion on acceptance and compromise within a relationship. I suppose the misinterpretation is partially my fault; I try to write as equivocally as possible for personal reasons. However, I speak of myself as having gained confidence, having been a stronger person than before, and this is still seen as not having any guts (which doesn’t really have anything to do with what I was talking about anyway). I’m wondering if my entry was simply skimmed over without any sort of actual understanding of what was being said.
I seriously hope this comment was a joke, that M. Dragon hasn’t come out of his/her teens yet, or that my entry was read after dropping two tabs of acid (while listening to some Plastikman). I haven’t been told to get some balls since high school.